Self-Advocacy pt. 1
Yes, I’d like fries with that!
It’s not just a delicious, salty treat, but also an easy acronym for ensuring consent.
F.R.I.E.S. is an easy way remember that consent is:
- F: Freely Given
- R: Reversible
- I: Informed
- E: Enthusiastic
- S: Specific
If your consent doesn’t have F.R.I.E.S. then you might not fully enjoy your “meal” or play experience.
After a lovely class at GASP 2026, in which they used candy to discuss consent, and went through some fantastic role-playing, we had to have these lovely and hard-working ladies on the podcast to share their techniques for self-advocacy in spanking!
It’s not easy to speak up for yourself, especially when many of us love to please our partners. But that’s exactly what being your own advocate is about. And for a fun scene, it’s important not just to please your partner, but to get your needs met and protect your own boundaries as well.
Whether it’s salty or sweet, F.R.I.E.S. or candy, this discussion has something for every taste.
There was just too much here for one episode, so do stay tuned for part 2.




